Love is a great feeling, one might even say eternal: if love is real, then it will live forever in our souls and hearts (of course, this applies only to those people who believe in God and the afterlife after death, atheists do not believe in such pathos :)

However, love is also a great way to manipulate another person.

How many women have led and are leading by the nose of their supposedly beloved men, trying to talk about their supposed love for them and at the same time sucking the last physical, mental, moral and material juices out of them, giving nothing in return?

Yes, there are many such young ladies, and each person knows at least a few such examples from his life - it can be just a colleague or even a best friend!

However, men who manipulate the defenseless female heart thanks to three in simple words"I love you" - no less, if not more, than such women.

Why are they doing that? There are many reasons for cheating girls by guys, and in each case, the male representative has his own motives. Let's look at just some of the most common cases in life.

A man confesses his love and says to a woman "I love you, you are the best" with the aim of:
1. To use a woman for a long time, for free and without the slightest twinge of conscience - I love her like, like "... lyu."

I experienced this version of male love in voluptuous ecstasy for 6 years of my life, and what I want to say is that I was a complete fool that I was led by the words of an elderly, mossy and bald, but very cunning, because - an experienced, macho womanizer, about love, which , as I understand it, and was not in sight.

So what made this experienced 45-year-old manipulator hang noodles on the ears of a 19-year-old girl?

Desire to take advantage of youth and inexperience. He did it well, because. before this "macho-picchu" I had no other men or guys, because. I behaved like a good girl, decent. Here I ran into it.

When you are 45 and you are like a businessman, and next to you a young and beautiful girl runs errands in high heels - a future lawyer and economist, by the way, with good spoken and written English language, then it greatly raises your social and business status in the eyes of both domestic and foreign partners.

Lyrical digression: Recently, I was hanging out freelancing, remembering my youth, and came across an ad, they say, photographers are required for staged shooting of female models for escort services.

Well, it became interesting to me, I'm on this site. And what do you think? The services that I provided for 6 years practically for free (for food and sometimes, but extremely rarely - for clothes), girls earn from 1 to 10,000 US dollars per exit!

Now think about who benefits from love with an age difference! And who benefits from powdering your head with beautiful, gentle and tender words about your own feelings, which in real life no, it wasn’t and won’t be, but thanks to the illusion of the presence of which it is possible to twist, manipulate a rope from a bad and young woman.

Free sex. And - awesome. Moreover - several times a day, but once a day or two - this is 100%. Hot, young, unrestrained.

Girls, this cattle ... man, all the juices from me over the years life together drank - after him my sexual fuse practically disappeared, because of him and his vybryki (he constantly talked with his former mistresses, and his wife was available, and he did not disdain to flirt with new ladies of any age - he stored the women under his feet in reserve, in case of a sex shortage, as I now understand) I turned gray early.

Full housekeeping for free - I cleaned the house, and went shopping, tore off my hands with bags of food, and cooked, and washed, and cleaned, and ironed, and worried about his affairs at work ...

Well, you get the idea...

2. My second case from life, connected with man's manipulation of love and deceit, is somewhat different.

Here the guy turned out to be not as quick-witted and intellectually savvy in relationships with the female sex as the previous instance, although he had already turned 25.

It turns out that he fooled me for 8 years, they say, he is deeply in love - just whistle and I'm all yours. Well, at some point I matured, whistled, and all that, and now I need to decide - who am I with? With him or not, what's next?

I ask him like this - do you love me? And the answer is - no.

In short, I am very grateful to this friend for his honesty in the second part of the Marleson ballet (because later, thank God, I met a REAL man), but what do I want to say?

Another would be, older and more experienced, could easily tell me, lie, saying that I love you, dear, I have no strength. And I would again, with my head and into the pool, for 5 years ...

Girls, why don't we appreciate ourselves so much? Why is man's love more important to us than our own happiness?

And why do I say that, thank God, it has passed? Yes, because as it turned out in the process and even later, this guy was a terrible slob (even worse than me a million times), and even more greedy than my previous one, and even his character - not during communication, but in real life everyday life - generally g ... but, you can’t say otherwise.

GIRLS! DON'T FALL IN LOVE AND DON'T LOSE YOUR HEAD FROM THOSE MEN WHO CARE BEAUTIFULLY! BECAUSE THEY TAKE CARE OF YOU SO BEAUTIFULLY, THEY HAVE A GREAT EXPERIENCE IN THIS BUSINESS BEFORE YOU!

If a man says at the very beginning of an acquaintance that you are so beautiful, and so smart, and so interesting, and in general everything is so cool, and so it pours right and left with beautiful gentle, pleasant and affectionate words about all your conceivable and inconceivable virtues - think about whether this is so, and even if it is, just take your time to fall for all this verbal nonsense, bouquets of flowers, restaurants and other romantic crap - then a barn lock from love addiction mixed with jealousy, dry rations and the whole life will fall on your fragile shoulders, and he will "help around the house" - when you sweep or mop the floor - he will raise his legs.

Girls, believe more in those guys who do not know how to look after beautifully, do not say or say little beautiful words and compliments, do not confess their love, big and bright feelings on 1-3 dates, do not pull you straight into bed, but want to first get to know each other as with a person that they blush and sweat, are embarrassed during a conversation - they are real and good, most likely honest and responsible guys - they are real men, and not these old horses who will get you with their fairy tales later.

Happiness to you and honest, sincere, loving men who will never deceive or betray you!

They do it for a variety of reasons. Some men want to have several girls at once in order to meet with them in turn, others manipulate to get benefits, and still others completely unconsciously resort to various tricks so that the girl could not even think that he is a real bastard. At the same time, girls try in every possible way to please such men and even study..

1. Plays the victim

In order not to burden themselves with a serious relationship, some guys are ready to come up with any excuse, so long as the girl does not ask to designate their meetings with the status of "couple". A bad guy will definitely come up with the most stupid and banal reason, like "the previous girl left me and my spiritual wounds have not yet healed, so let's just be together." The role of the victim will allow him to delay the moment from questions about the status of the relationship, which is so important for a girl.

2. Innocence itself

A bad guy is always sure that he is right. Moreover, even if he kisses another, he will turn the situation around in such a way that it is the girl who is to blame for this. With the innocent eyes of a deer, such a character will come up with a hundred reasons why he was caught with another. And what's the point if your official relationship is not such, because "his wounds from the former have not yet healed," and you gave the green light to uncertainty. He is just looking for himself.

3. Constantly in touch

The bad guy knows how to keep all his women on their toes. He will periodically call, write SMS, like photos in in social networks. In general, to remind you of yourself so that you think that there is something between you. In fact, the bad guy keeps in good shape not only you, but also a dozen young ladies with whom he meets.

4. Absolute lie

A bad guy will never admit his mistakes or "blunders". He will say that he is not married, although in fact his beloved wife and children may be waiting for him at home, he will assure that he does not know the girl who liked his ava. He will come up with any lie just to get away with it and make you guilty. And the most interesting thing is that he will not be ashamed of his lies, because he is a bad boy and this is his lifestyle.

5. He bathes you in attention.

Even if on long time he suddenly disappears, and then returns, then you will not be able to tell him everything that you think about him. He's incredibly charming! The bad guy will buy beautiful bouquet and say: "Baby, I had work to do! How I missed you!". And that's it! You won't be able to resist anymore. All sorts of compliments, romance and so on will be used.

6. Intimacy

Due to the fact that the bad guy is a wonderful manipulator, he knows exactly how to persuade you to intimacy. At the same time, in the morning after a night with such a cutie and charm, a girl usually does not know if she has a new boyfriend or if she was tritely used.

7. He Dodges Precise Answers

As JoInfo journalist Karina Kotovskaya found out, such a character as a bad guy will never say that he is looking for the One, but he will not claim that he is satisfied with the bachelor life. He is "between here", which attracts women. Such a man does not say that he likes you, but he does not deny it either. Somehow, the bad guy makes the girl think she has a chance to win his stubborn heart. By the way, a bad guy never has to Family status on pages in social networks and he usually does not post photos with other girls.

8. He's hard to understand

He will fill your mind! And all because the bad guy will do everything possible so that his every act and word leaves three dots behind him. He then invites you somewhere, then abruptly cancels the meeting. The uncertainty makes you think about him and jump at every opportunity he provides to be with him.

9. Plays jealous

So that the girl still does not get tired of such mystery, occasionally a bad guy can turn on the jealous mode. At the same time, he may not care who claims your heart there. Moreover, yesterday he could kiss another in a bar, but today he gave you a debriefing due to the fact that the guy on the street "looks at you strangely." Great manipulator. Applause!

Now you know how to recognize the manipulation methods bad guys often use! But if you're lucky and next to you a real man who proposed to you and in 2017 you are going to get married, then look in the year of the Fire Rooster.

How often do girls cheat on their boyfriends?

1. Age

Unfortunately, women over 30 feel the need to lie to everyone around them about their age. Such lies are more likely to be called slyness, since they are not as scary as the rest on this list, and let's be honest, men do it too.

However, it's not uncommon for a guy to date a girl and have no idea she's 32 instead of 26. But is it bad that you got a girl who looks great for her age.

2. I'm not angry!

You yourself are to blame, blurted out what she did not like or did not take her side in the dispute. One way or another, you deserve that affectionate, passive-aggressive smile and the words "No, what are you, I'm not angry!".

And then she leaves the room and the door behind her almost flies off its hinges. In such a situation, it is better not to catch her eye, and sooner or later she will think about the likelihood that she is angry from scratch.

3. How many sexual partners did she have?

Girls don't want to appear promiscuous, but the truth is that they love sex too. So chances are she's already had several partners before you.

Nothing wrong with that. But most guys still live in those dark times where girls are supposed to be virgins before marriage and have sex only for reproduction.

So yes, girls lie about this number, because any answer above 1-2 in the eyes of a guy will make her almost a night butterfly.

4. I'll be ready in 5 minutes!

Five minutes turn into 10, and then into 20 and even 30, and then the girl already falls out of reality, because what's the difference, let the whole world wait.

She doesn’t torment you with waiting on purpose, her false eyelashes just came off, then the varnish on one nail peeled off and before continuing the makeup, you have to wait until the new layer dries, and the dress that she planned to wear today looks different on her than yesterday . So you have to rethink the whole outfit

5. We are just friends!

The fact that a girl has a close male friend annoys all the guys in the world. There is always a suspicion that there is something between them. And even if you are 100% sure of your girlfriend, you cannot vouch for her friend.

It often happens that there really was something between them before you, and, as you know, getting rid of old habits is not so easy. And then, like the most innocent gestures, like constant hugs and kisses on the cheek, they start to really strain.

6. I have curvaceous!

This item is more suitable for online dating. Usually, girls indicate exactly this type of figure in their profile when they are definitely overweight.

Unfortunately, curvaceous And excess weight- these are completely different things, but girls in this case prefer to ignore the difference.

You should not start a relationship with a lie, if there will be a relationship at all after the truth is revealed. On the other hand, few people want to seem like a superficial jerk, making a scandal out of this, so most likely the trick will work.

7. Don't give me anything for Valentine's Day/Our Anniversary!

What do they really mean? Please give me something. How to be a guy in this situation? Yes, I know that Valentine's Day, coined by merchandisers, is a holiday designed to get you to buy a piece of pink cardboard, chocolate, and balloons.

But it has long been ingrained in our heads and cannot be ignored. The same goes for an anniversary. It just needs a little attention. Show that you remember this date. It is enough to give a bouquet of flowers or a more expensive thing, but it all depends on your wallet.

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The female sex loves to cheat and embellish. Often, young ladies present themselves as virgins, although they are not. They wish to appear innocently pure in order to conquer the knight of their lives. In the recent past, great attention was paid to this issue and the girls began to carry out procedures that can restore innocence.

How do girls cheat about virginity?

Previously used the following methods:

The girl cheated that she was a virgin

In the event that the girl all the time convinced of her innocence, but actually deceived, then the relationship will come to naught. After all, no man will tolerate such an attitude towards himself, especially if the question of innocence is very important to him. Guys who have been in search for a long time have tried a lot and are looking for a virgin as a wife, as they have seen from their own experience that connections with experienced people will not lead to good, they have too many grievances against the opposite sex and cockroaches in their heads. Even virgins choose innocent girls for themselves in order not to be disgraced during an intimate debut. This is the greatest fear of every man - not to satisfy his woman! This also includes timid men who are shy and constantly shy. And if the bride had no experience, then she has no one to compare with. He will be unique and magnificent.

Ways to imitate virginity:

What to do if a girl cheated about her virginity

Many men ask this question: “what if a girl cheated about her virginity?” in fact, if you are an inexperienced man, then, of course, you can be deceived. But an experienced man manages to immediately identify whether the girl is innocent. If you managed to figure out your partner, then what to do is up to you. In fact, it's okay that this is not the first time, but, on the other hand, the girl deceived you, and not every person will tolerate this. How then to build relations further?