Teamwork is not only a laborious process from Monday to Friday. Scandals and intrigues, resentment and fun, likes and dislikes - and such a whirlwind occurs almost daily. Colleagues are especially interested in discussing emerging office romances among two employees. You can also fall into the same trap if a man from the team is seriously interested in you. But how to understand that a male colleague likes you if you do not know his sympathy? This is what will be discussed.

Just imagine - you came to a new team for you, it is large and heterogeneous. A huge number of eyes seem to bore you: someone looks at you with curiosity, someone arrogantly, someone ironically, but also friendly. The first test of “pins and needles” must be patiently passed, so you are unlikely to immediately notice that someone looked at you with lust or with a spark of love.

Only later, joining the team, you will intuitively feel who feels what for you. With women - to hell with them, it can sometimes be difficult with them if they feel in you a competitor both in career and in leadership among men. But just with men, you will begin to think - what kind of behavior does this or that have, and what is on his mind towards you: a purely business attitude, indulgence as a young employee or hidden sympathy? This is the case if one of them is constantly in communication with you.

Male colleagues by psychotype

And now you have been working in this team for several days, you have learned a little about the character of each. And men do not bypass you. But take a closer look at the psychotype of everyone: how they react to your appearance. As a last resort, if you make friends with any female employee, ask her which of the men is what much.

frivolous ladies' man

What does he do and how to understand him:

He is the first to make you "oily" eyes, smiles and is interested in your personal life with undisguised interest.

He is a merry fellow and balabol, like the soul of the whole team, but at the same time, none of the women takes him seriously.

The whole team watches with special curiosity how you react to his jokes and claims.

He showers you with compliments with or without reason, as long as you reciprocate.

Be careful with this one! This man is a ladies' man who counts his victories over women even if he can't get you into bed. Falling in love with yourself is already a victory. Although sex for him, too, will not be superfluous. Read it and everything will become clear to you. By the way, a strict team, because of your weakness for such a womanizer, will quickly be disappointed in you, and your reputation will be tarnished. And an office romance will not lead to anything serious.

Zealous careerist

Signs of attention of such a man will hardly be hidden under falling in love, although he will not leave you alone almost from the first day of work:

He will actively take control of all your affairs - he will willingly suggest what and how, but mainly working for the public and the authorities.

There is almost no praise, but there is a whole mountain of criticism, and all your mistakes are exposed to colleagues.

Sometimes he can sympathize with you, but mostly hidden from everyone, so that you are imbued with respect for him.

He is the initiator of any business, fawns over his superiors and tries to command the team, even though he is often besieged in place.

Do not expect such romantic feelings. All these signs say one thing: this man loves power more than women. Even in moments of sympathy and feigned sympathy for you, he thereby attracts the “electorate” in the event that a new boss is chosen. In public, he makes himself a big “bump”, and behind everyone’s back and for everyone individually, he is soft and kind. The strategy of any careerist.

Sweet romantic

If they said about some employee: “This is a good guy!”, Then you can recognize all the signs of sympathy for him towards you:

He is embarrassed, but very polite, communicating with you - he blushes, stuttering slightly, but when talking on business he calms down and is ready to help.

When communicating, he tries not to look at you directly, but from the outside you accidentally catch his glances at you, they seem to go “casually”.

You will never hear rudeness and vulgarity from him, even if by chance you overheard his conversation with colleagues with a couple of obscenities on an abstract topic.

He is always ready to come to your rescue, even if you do not ask anyone for anything and sit in doubt over the papers.

You will already intuitively feel his sympathy for yourself. Perhaps this man is secretly in love with you, but it’s not in his rules to put it on display, as a womanizer does. And he will not do it in public, like a careerist. Even helping at work, he will be more interested in an intimate business relationship: sit next to him and quietly discuss some problem. Over time, his secret will still become clear. And if while he is unrequitedly in love, then perhaps you will soon have an office romance, if you like him too. But, again, his behavior may not hide the feeling of falling in love. It is possible that he just has a deep respect for all women, and it seemed to you that this was a sign of secret love.

Closed beech

The most complex psychotype of a man in a team. He is somehow all dissolved in loneliness. Busy with work, uncommunicative. But he also has a heart, and he can fall in love and is capable of sympathy for a lady. How can he behave if he nevertheless became partial to you:

He, though reluctantly, for the sake of appearance to others, but with pleasure will help you in your work. For appearances, this is only because he does not like to help others.

With you, he is more talkative and smiling than with the rest, although he tries not to raise his eyes.

Oddly enough, but he is annoyed by talking about his personal life - he is very afraid to expose his feelings.

If a malicious ladies' man sticks to you, then you can even notice from the behavior of the beech how it infuriates him - a nervous tic in his shoulders, clenched fists.

Such a man is unlikely to confess his love to you, and you yourself will not know how to behave with him. It doesn't look bad, but it's kind of prickly. Perhaps he sees a goddess in you, and he himself has lowered his own ego below the plinth. He is angry in his soul at your beauty and at his insecurity, but he can’t do anything. He is afraid of you. Even if you yourself try to seduce him and show your first sympathy for such a man, he will recoil from you like fire.

Now imagine - you already know about everything and everyone in your team, and suddenly you receive a letter from a secret admirer to your email, who shows sympathy for you in private. You know for sure that this is one of the employees - he did not hide this from you. But who is this man? A narcissistic ladies' man, or possibly a romantic. Careerist and beech seem to be brushed aside, but still not excluded.

You are intrigued, running your eyes around all the tables of male employees and looking for at least some sign of the declassification of the addresser:

Lovelace - broke into a smile, feeling your gaze.

Romantic - and so looked at you, but looked away.

Careerist - furiously tapping on the keyboard, checking something with the documents.

Buka, sensing your gaze, shrugged his shoulders nervously.

So, the circle narrows, we throw out the careerist, you do not cause sympathy in him. We begin correspondence, and actively, with a hint of a possible romance. Lovelace will immediately give himself away with verbosity and compliments, the beech will most likely stop virtual communication (well, at least he tried), and the romantic will keep correspondence with restraint, giving out information about himself in portions.

If the correspondence has gained momentum to such an extent that it is time to meet, then you can take the initiative yourself. For example, invite him after work to meet in a cafe for a cup of coffee. Pay attention to the reaction of the man: the womanizer, by the way, will offer it himself, the romantic will agree to come, and the beech will get cold feet, even if he dared to maintain correspondence.

How to behave when exposed

It all depends on your sympathy for this man. Imagine your shock if this nasty careerist who you don’t like at all appears in a cafe. Well, with a show off - to increase your rating among the electorate through such cunning intrigues. Or the ladies' man will be pinned down, which is not easier.

But imagine if that man comes who you really like and with whom your sympathy coincided: for example, a romantic or even this modest but brave beech. Or even one that you did not expect at all, but he was nevertheless nice to you.

Either way, take it easy. Say something along the lines of: “But I knew it was you!”. And if you are interested, then boldly into battle, unless, of course, both of you are free. What if this virtual office affair turns into a real romance with a sequel? Maybe even then the careerist who appeared in the cafe will turn out to be a romantic in his soul, and the womanizer will take the path of correction. These office romance hopefuls have a right to be, too, and you may have managed to make one fall in love with you.

Finally, an unusual technique

Let's do a thought experiment.

Imagine that you have the superpower to "read" men. Like Sherlock Holmes: you look at a man - and you immediately know everything about him and understand what is on his mind. You would be able to get any man and have an ideal relationship and would hardly be reading this article now in search of a solution to your problem.

Who said it's impossible? Of course, you won’t read other people’s thoughts, but otherwise there is no magic here - only psychology.

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