There is a common opinion among women that most men are thick-skinned louts who do not need feelings, they simply do not distinguish between them. Women are sure that all men live only by reason and logic, and consider feelings to be something invented and non-existent. The exception, in their opinion, is perhaps teenagers experiencing their first love. This opinion is fundamentally wrong. After all, both men and women are, first of all, people, which means they are capable of experiencing feelings, experiencing and being inspired.

In a man's world, it is not customary to openly demonstrate one's emotions and feelings, because... this is considered a sign of weakness. And it is not surprising that men hide their feelings so carefully, although sometimes they experience them no less than us women. After all, every person wants love more than anything in the world. It is a need, just like breathing.

Having fallen in love, men ask the same questions: Does a woman love me? Is she leading me by the nose, promising devotion and love? How to distinguish manipulation from love? And most importantly: how not to make a mistake in choosing a worthy woman?

And in this area, men are often more inexperienced than us women. Therefore, it is sometimes very difficult for them to distinguish between a girl’s falling in love and playing at falling in love. But knowledge of the psychology of women reveals secrets with which you can almost accurately determine whether a woman is in love with a man.

How to tell if a woman loves you

There are many signs that indicate the real feelings of a girl and a woman, and we will start with bodily or unconscious ones, which are almost impossible to imitate. This is a woman's gaze, her gestures and touches. The ability to read them correctly will help you easily determine whether you have a chance of reciprocity.

Let's start with the female perspective.

When a woman likes a man, her gaze will be directed towards him. This is especially noticeable in a team or company where there are many men and women. If you have already caught a woman's gaze on you several times, you can rest assured that she is definitely interested in you. Her enlarged pupils will tell you the same thing.

The girls’ gestures are no less eloquent in expressing feelings.

Body language is open and understandable, just be careful. A woman who likes you will try to casually touch you in a cafe, on the stairs, in a movie theater or in an office hallway. She will definitely try to sit closer to you, as if feeling the strength in you that can protect her. And also because to better feel your body, its attraction, your desire. Such touches are more instinctive than conscious. These are the desires of the body, but not yet of the heart and mind, although in some cases this happens.

How can you tell if a woman loves a man?

A girl in love often experiences excitement around you, which can be discerned by the slight blush on her cheeks or her rapid breathing. These manifestations are also difficult for her to control.

If a girl likes you, she is unlikely to pull back your hand when you touch her cheek or hair, trying to brush away a speck of dust or straighten a curl. The only exceptions can be cases of too harsh upbringing, distrust of men coming from the past, or fear of lack of experience of falling in love at all. In this case, you will see fear in her eyes.

A girl's behavior will also tell you a lot about her feelings for you.

Showing interest

How to understand that a woman truly loves?

A woman who likes you will try to hear and learn as much as possible about you. And it’s not just about getting food for thought, no. Rather, it is the need for food for the heart and feelings. Hearing something about you, she experiences pleasant feelings and sensations, this gives her some quiet but strong joy. But again, this is only in those cases when she likes you enough.

Although it is not uncommon for a girl to not be in love and simply decide that for some reason you are an advantageous partner or groom. In this case, she will collect information about you so that she can then use it to her advantage. The difference in both cases can only be seen or felt with your own eyes. Pay attention to her eyes, glance, smile, etc. As a rule, the eyes of lovers emit a certain light, warmth, kinship; and the smile will not be crooked with a cold, prickly look.

Desire to communicate

How else can you tell if a woman loves a man?

A woman who has feelings for you always wants to communicate with you on any, even trivial matter. Although not each of them will decide to do this first. Upbringing, beliefs, uncertainty about reciprocal feelings - there are many reasons. But, if you talk to her yourself, you will immediately see that she is truly happy about this and is ready to communicate.

Although in our time it is considered quite normal that a girl approaches a guy first and many guys like it. There is no need to strain yourself, to invent a reason to “pick her up”, to interest her. But in this case there may be pitfalls. Not every girl who talks to you first is in love with you. You can read her feelings by the same signs: gaze, pupils, gestures, blush, perhaps some embarrassment.

Flirting with other men

For a woman in love, other men simply do not exist. She doesn’t single them out from the crowd, doesn’t try to flirt with any of them - she doesn’t need to. In company, she will not show obvious, defiant signs of attention to other guys. If this happens, then there are two options: either she is offended by you and wants to take revenge, or she doesn’t really like you. A woman who loves you behaves calmly and reservedly with other men.

The exception is when a girl tries to attract your attention to herself in this way.

She considers your interests

When a woman loves, she treats a man's interests with respect and understanding. And he doesn’t give you an ultimatum about meeting friends, fishing or football. A loving woman respects you, so she takes into account your opinion and your interests. Otherwise there is no talk of love. There may be passion, a desire to manipulate, the “mommy” syndrome, the “owner” syndrome - anything, but not feelings.

Attention and care

You can understand that a woman truly loves you by showing her attention and care for you. When a woman loves, she will try to make your life as comfortable and enjoyable as possible. For this she needs only one thing: to know that you love her too. After all, for a woman, love is the most important part of her life. When a woman is loved, she does any housework with joy. Any of her movements and actions will be filled with lightness, harmony and beauty.

But for a man, everything is somewhat different: love for him is only a part of his life, the haven where he trusts, completely relaxes, gives his all, and then with renewed vigor joins in the struggle: work, career, creativity, etc. Therefore, an indicator of love a woman will be HOW she moves, HOW she does something, HOW she creates coziness, comfort, warmth in the house. Feeling your love, any of its actions will be filled with joy, tenderness, and happiness. And who doesn’t want to feel that they are always waiting for you, that you, just as you are, are always welcome? The opposite is also true: a lack of feelings on your part can “extinguish” any of her desires and endeavors.

A loving woman will always share your worries and try to help you unobtrusively. This support will sometimes even be completely invisible, without words or advice - it will simply hug you warmly. A loving woman will always feel when you need her support and how best to do it - after all, she LOVES!

Attitude towards your career

How else can you understand that a woman loves you? It's simple. A loving woman is not just interested in your work, professional growth and career advancement, but also inspires you to new achievements and victories. It doesn’t bother you that you’ve been wiping your pants for years without a promotion, but it inspires, energizes and helps.

A truly loving woman understands the importance of this part of her beloved’s life. After all, without realization, without creativity, without new openness, his life will lose all meaning. This is the only way he lives life to the fullest, creates, creates new projects, discovers something new in science, technology, and technology. And increases material well-being.

It is in this order: a man’s real interest – his need – fulfillment in the world – value. This is the position of not just a woman in love, but a truly worthy woman.

Confidence

Trust is a real indicator of a woman’s love for a man. If there is no trust, then there is no intimacy. When a woman loves, she trusts. Love without trust is impossible. If there is mistrust, then at that moment there is anything but love. It is impossible to love and not trust at the same time. These are two mutually exclusive conditions. And it is clear that without trust intimacy is impossible. Perhaps balancing act in bed, as a release for the genitals. Instead of controlling your gadgets and eavesdropping on conversations, she is not afraid to trust you with her most intimate things. After all, are you a truly close person to her or not?

She tries to be sincere

How else can you understand that a woman truly loves you? By showing sincerity. We are all people, and each of us has our own desires, which may not always coincide with the desires of our partner.

A loving woman expresses her desires and preferences directly and openly without feminine quests or omissions. She doesn’t need “excuses” about the fact that she doesn’t want to watch the movie you chose, for example, or a hike. She will calmly be able to explain why she doesn’t want sex now, without fear of your misunderstanding, mistrust or offense. And this is normal and decent behavior for a woman.

Every person, and especially those who love, has the right to freedom of expression. But only truly free, self-confident, worthy people can take this freedom into account. Appreciating these qualities both in themselves and in others.

She will express her disagreement with you on some issue calmly and respectfully, as her own idea. She is ready to hear your opinion on this issue and will not reject your arguments, but will take them into account, perhaps changing her own opinion.

Sincerity is characteristic only of strong, self-confident people; it is the sister of trust. And these qualities are the basis of any relationship between a man and a woman.

These are the most obvious signs that indicate a woman is in love and loves you.

Signs of “falling in love” with hidden subtext

It is sometimes quite difficult for a man to understand a woman’s feelings, especially if he himself is in love. Because of his vulnerability, he is often prone to wishful thinking. Especially after some “helpful” advice given on relevant resources on the Internet. For example, the statement that a clear sign of a woman’s feelings is her gifts to a man.

This is only true for the later stages of a relationship, not the beginning. Often a woman uses this technique only to get the right partner for marriage, and not because she really likes him. At the beginning of a relationship, this is more often a reason for manipulating a man than an expression of the sincerity of a woman’s feelings. This behavior of a woman is not worthy. A woman who is confident in herself, an elite woman, will not “buy” a man with gifts. So this sign at the beginning of a relationship rather indicates the opposite than the woman’s real feelings.

Jealousy, indicated by many authors as a clear sign of a woman’s love, is also not proof. Rather, it is the nature of any living being. Strong jealousy indicates: firstly, a girl/woman’s lack of self-confidence and, secondly, an unbridled possessive instinct. At first, this may please a man's ego, but over time it becomes more of a real problem in the relationship than a sign of true love. And of course, jealousy can hardly be called worthy behavior for a woman.

And then, when you feel love for a person, by definition there can be no place for jealousy. At the same time you experience either love or jealousy. Love and jealousy together never “run the show.”

And one more thing: one of the main aspects of love is trust, which is incompatible with jealousy. And it is not characteristic of all people, but only of those of us who are capable of it. Who has learned to control their inner animal. How we humans differ from animals.

Typical signs of manipulation

In fact, there are many such signs, so I will give only the most common ones. I am sure this knowledge will help you avoid mistakes and disappointments in love.

"Dispersal field"

A girl rarely shows interest in you only when she sees that you can disappear from her field of vision. The rest of the time she is: “busy”, “feels bad”, “can’t” meet, etc. It’s obvious that she doesn’t need you. But when she sees you with someone else, she puts on a performance on the theme: “you broke my heart.” Confident that jealousy is real and that it is a sign of love, you run to her, but very soon you realize that this is not love, but a disgusting possessive instinct. The one who wants to keep you on the sidelines to maintain her own image.

Ambivalent Behavior

It often happens that a girl either approaches you or pushes you away. This is a variant of the “alternate airfield” or “dog in the manger”. The girl is not in love, and you are a kind of simulator for her, with the help of which she hones the skills of communication and flirting. She is only ready to take, but will not give. What? First of all, feelings. It’s better for you to find someone else right away, saving time, nerves and effort. And then a worthy, self-confident, especially an elite woman will not behave like that. I hope you understand why. But this is exactly what you are looking for, isn’t it?

Stories about the ex

Yes, to some guys, a girl’s endless stories about her ex seem to be a sign of special trust. But no. Here there is regret about the past and comparison of you with the previous one, as a rule, not in your favor, and you are also like a free “girlfriend” or “vest”. And don’t hope that she will soon forget him and completely admire you, your kindness, patience and understanding. No. Because her heart still belongs to someone else. This is an indisputable fact.

Perhaps some time will pass and life will put everything in its place. It’s possible, but it’s not a fact that she will definitely return to you. So it's better to find another girl.

Make you jealous

Many girls use this method, especially if they want to spur a guy to take more active action. And such behavior is not only considered normal, but completely encouraged.

I do not share this approach, because it is, at a minimum, an attempt to manipulate another person. And, at the most, a manifestation of distrust and disrespect for him as a person and a man. And, if you try to be precise in your definitions, then an attempt to make a man jealous is not a sign of a girl falling in love, but an attempt to FORCE a guy to act as she considers necessary and correct. Those. this is a disregard for his feelings, views, disrespect for his values, etc.

Jealousy is the easiest way to hook a man’s vanity in an attempt to ignite animal passion in him. But, if a girl resorts to such methods, then who is she herself and who does she consider a man to be? The answer is obvious. As well as her level of development and her range of interests.

Call if he needs help

Often the girl herself calls or writes to you quite often. You want to believe that she likes you. But each of her calls begins not with how you are, what you are doing, what interesting things you are doing, but with the next: “I need your help,” “fix it,” “do it,” “bring it,” etc. And your hope is that that she values ​​your strength, responsiveness, skills and kindness is completely wrong.

There are some principles that guide the process of the origin and development of feelings, described in some detail in the psychology of relationships between men and women. In order to better understand each other, it is worth finding out how the process of developing the feelings of the weaker and stronger sexes develops.

How does love develop in men and women?

This process is not the same. There are certain stages of falling in love between a man and a woman, which quite accurately determine the point at which interest, infatuation and love arise in both sexes.

The obviousness of the fact of love for men and women occurs at different times. A woman feels that she is in love much earlier than the moment when a man understands the same thing. And the reason is that feelings and reason turn on at different speeds. After all, a woman tends to trust her feelings more, while a man more often relies on logic and rationality. This means that he needs more time to receive appropriate arguments regarding his real feelings for a woman.

A woman, as a rule, tends to feel her love for a man at the conquest stage, when he conquers her with his constant attention, gifts, surprises and romance. But for a man, this is only the middle of the road. And at the stage of conquest, he wants to establish himself as a winner, a hero and a worthy man. Moreover, both in the eyes of a woman and in the eyes of other men. But this does not mean that a man has no feelings at this stage. There is love, but not yet love.

So it's easier for you not to make mistakes. But, if you still continue to doubt a woman’s reciprocal feelings for you, there is a simple way to dispel doubts - ask her directly. Moreover, women are more likely to talk about their feelings than men. And then a sincere, frank conversation about feelings for each other and expectations in love brings people together and wins them over. Especially women.

Good luck in love!