Having started a dialogue on VK with a guy you like, you probably want to attract his attention and arouse interest. There are a few simple rules that will help you easily strike up a conversation.

If he wrote first, how to react

This option is the easiest. The only thing you need is to show maximum friendliness. Do not answer dryly or in monosyllables, however, do not “go too far” - there is no point in writing long memoirs, answering banal questions. In general, the main thing is to know the measure.

What to write to him if we are strangers

First of all, you need to apply to him to add "friends". However, if he opened access to information on his page for all users, and people who are not on his friends list can also write messages to him, then you can simply send him some message. Perhaps he will be interested in the usual: “Hi. How are you?” But it’s better if your first message is not so faceless - let him understand why he aroused your interest. You can write: “Hi. I stumbled across your page and just couldn't take my eyes off your dog. If it's easy, tell me something about this breed. If there is no dog, then you can note that he has an amazing bike, you want the same and are interested in its characteristics. Having noticed that he goes to the gym, write that you have been looking at this particular institution for a long time, and you want to find out from a real client how convenient it is to work out there. This way you can beat almost any noteworthy detail that you see on his page.

You are each other's "friends"

It may be that you crossed paths somewhere, and one of you was added to the other as “friends”, but then the correspondence did not take place. Just wait for him to post a new post and comment on it - praise the song, give an opinion on some philosophical quote, etc. You can write him a personal message, noting some change in his appearance. You may have seen that the guy has been to some interesting place - just ask him about it.

Resume communication after a long pause

It is possible that once you communicated, but now it is in the past. In general, in this situation it is also appropriate to start a casual conversation, to take an interest in the affairs of the interlocutor. Although, if you interrupted the connection due to a quarrel, then you can carefully raise this issue by admitting that you were wrong and offering to make contact.

What can you tell a guy about yourself when texting

Of course, in correspondence, you should not talk about what guys are of little interest in - in which salon you did your manicure, the advantages of one face mask over another, and the like. Leave such conversations for girlfriends. Interests, hobbies Perhaps you are fond of dancing, yoga, roller skating or fitness classes - all this will not be superfluous to tell a young man about yourself. In addition, for sure, he will like the fact that you are trying to keep yourself in shape. Also, any guy would be interested to know about your creative hobbies - painting, photography, poetry. If you do not have any hobbies, then it's time to find them! Share your plans for the future Surely, you have some ideas that you would like to bring to life in the near future. It is possible that you would like to visit some European city, or you want to go to an interesting master class. To maintain a conversation with a guy, you can also talk about what you plan to do next weekend. A conversation about your favorite movie Sometimes it is useful to switch to neutral topics. Now it is difficult to find a person who would not be fond of cinema. Ask what genre your interlocutor is closest to. Many young people are happy to watch films based on Marvel or DC comics, which have recently been at the peak of popularity and collect huge box office around the world. If you like "superhero movies", and you know for sure that the guy has some idea about them, then you can discuss famous heroes by sharing opinions about them with each other. There are also a lot of fans among the television projects "Game of Thrones", "The Big Bang Theory" and others, which will also be very entertaining to discuss. Write about your favorite characters, put forward theories regarding the further development of the plot. If your tastes do not overlap, and you watch completely different movies, then just share your opinion about certain films with each other. From this conversation, he will at least be able to find out what genres you are interested in and, perhaps later, you will go to the cinema together to see the picture that you previously discussed. Interesting places for you Tell us how you like to spend your time and what places you visit most often. We can talk about your favorite shopping center, cinema, gym, bowling alley, cafe, and so on. It is possible that in the course of the conversation it turns out that you often visit the same places, and this can serve as a good reason for a meeting.

How and what to write to please a guy

It happens that at first the correspondence goes quite cheerfully, but suddenly the interest of the interlocutor begins to fade. How to communicate with a guy in order to please him? First of all, you need to show at least some interest in relation to a young man. Ask him about how his day is going, what plans he has for today. Remember what he said earlier. Perhaps he was going to visit somewhere - ask how it went. If he told about his pet, then ask how his four-legged friend is doing. You should not bombard the guy with endless messages, but it is still advisable to demonstrate your friendliness. Do not ignore his messages, imagining how he suffers from the fact that you are online, but do not answer him. So you will not get a full-fledged dialogue. If you do not respond to most of his messages for several days, hoping that by doing so you will intrigue him, then gradually he will no longer want to write to you at all.

If a young man asks you some questions, then you do not need to answer them sparingly and in monosyllables. Give a detailed answer - of course, within reason. It would also not be bad to ask him any questions, periodically not being afraid to take the initiative in conducting a conversation. Even if you have a lot of free time, then the guy does not need to know that you have absolutely nothing to do with yourself - days to be "online" - so you will gradually earn a reputation as a loafer. It’s a completely different matter if you work or are really busy with something, listening to music on VK and answering messages every few minutes or even hours. But it’s better to go online in the evenings for a couple of hours. This is quite enough for full-fledged virtual communication, and will not allow you to get bogged down in meaningless correspondence.

What questions can you ask a guy during correspondence

There are many topics that you can bring up with your interlocutor. Avoid asking too many questions about your ex and don't talk about things that are too personal - it's okay to talk about it in a more intimate relationship. 1. Learn about holidays with friends Ask how often he goes out with friends, and if he likes company in general. It could also be that the guy you like is an introvert who doesn't like spending too much time with his buddies. In general, you can find out all this from him. 2. Bring up the theme of childhood Somehow unobtrusively touch on the theme of childhood. Find out where the young man liked to go as a preschooler, whether any funny situations happened in his childhood, whether he remembers that period well. Also, do not forget to cover a more conscious age - find out if the guy liked to study at school, which subjects seemed more interesting to him than others, whether he kept in touch with school friends. 3. Discuss musical tastes Surely, the guy you like has certain musical preferences that you can also discuss. Ask him if he had any idols as a teenager and what artists he listens to the most. You can also ask if he has a favorite song. 4. Favorite places in your city Undoubtedly, in the city of residence of your interlocutor there are places that he prefers to visit more often than others - find out about these sights. In addition, you can find out why this or that institution is special for him. 5. Talk about travel Find out what interesting corners of the world the guy has been to. Perhaps the geography of his travels is still limited only to the cities of his country - find out where he liked the most and where he would like to go again. 6. Ask about work or school If you do not know this, then ask what the young man does - where he studies or works. Naturally, it is completely inappropriate to specify the amount of his salary. Just ask if he likes his field of activity, and why he chose it.

There are a few rules that should be followed so that the guy does not lose interest in you.

You should not write to a young man several messages per minute - especially if he is not distinguished by such agility in correspondence. He has not yet had time to answer one message, and you write after the next? At this rate, your dialogue runs the risk of gradually developing into a monologue. Try to write without obvious grammatical errors - this is very annoying for some Web users. Surely, in your browser you can find settings with which errors in your words (in VK, email, etc.) will be underlined in red. Some girls prefer to take signs of attention for granted, or not notice them at all . If a guy praises your photo, noting that you look amazing, you don’t need to write: “I know!” or "You're not the first to tell me this." A modest enough: "Thank you for the compliment." Most men avoid arrogant girls, and it will not be very good if the young man you like thinks you are. If you disagree on some issue, do not try to convince him that you are right, do not escalate the situation. You can simply indicate that you have a different opinion on this matter, but his point of view is also quite interesting. You should not prove to him that he is a fool who “does not understand anything” in this matter. Also, do not try to provoke a guy into jealousy by telling how many fans you have, how tired you are of them, and the like. If we are talking about "virtual" admirers, then the interlocutor himself will notice the activity on your page, and their discussion will not paint you at all. The maximum that you can do is to correctly answer the question about this or that person or about fans in general, if the guy asks you about it himself.

How to get a pen pal to ask you out on a date

Sometimes the correspondence is significantly delayed, but never leads to a real meeting. If a guy is in no hurry to ask you out on a date, then you have the opportunity to push him to this. Little girly tricks:

When chatting with a guy, let him know that you have a clear interest in him. You should not impose yourself, but do not forget to answer his questions, periodically be interested in his affairs, and maintain a dialogue. Perhaps the premiere of a film that he likes is expected soon. Hint that you are also waiting for this picture, and plan to visit the cinema when it comes out. You can also mention that a certain cafe opened in the city a long time ago, which you wanted to visit to taste sushi or burgers that your friends praised to you. The same can be written about some exhibition, theater and so on. He may not know where to invite you, but after your words, this problem will disappear. Tell the guy that lately there has been a lot of work or study, but now you finally have free time, and you don’t even know where you would go , after all, for some reason, no ideas are visiting you now. It is possible that he himself will give you an idea in which he will also appear. If the guy is in no hurry to invite you on a date, and you have already begun to doubt that you are interested in him, you will have to act more radically and directly tell that you really like communicate with him, and I would like to "somehow cross paths" in the city for a cup of coffee. According to his answer, you will understand whether a meeting is waiting for you soon, or whether you misjudged the signs of attention of this young man.